She is a doll isn't she?
I have decided that Abi is one of my best friends. A best friend to me, is someone who is always there for you no matter what; someone who loves you deeper than her own skin; someone who's heart is attached to you; and someone who can piss you off, drive you insane, and at the end of the day still be attached to your soul!
I have been blessed with a number of (3) best friends...and I love them all, and each one is special in her own unique way, but abi is obviously the best of the best. She brings so much joy, so much laughter (and tears), so much love and life to my life...I don't deserve her, but I've got her and I thank God for her every single day.
LESSON's LEARNED...
Since my last blog entry, I've learned some valuable lessons...thanks in part (okay, 100%) to my abi and her "ism's". As a parent, your job is to love, embrace, mould and teach your children. You have SO MANY things that you have to teach them, and in teaching them, they in turn, teach you! That was my Lesson #1.
Lesson 2
More often than not (when the child is a girl, and the girl is a daddy's girl), sending the dad to put child to sleep, is going to work in the child's favor and not yours! And someone usually ends up hurt! In my family anyway.
Abi doesn't sleep. I'm convinced of this. She is up when we go to bed, and awake when I wake up! We have tried EVERYTHING to get this girl to sleep (aside from drugging her, which apparently is WRONG...I kid, I kid...not really, but I have to say that before someone calls child and family on me!). We have tried the "letting her cry it out"...we've been trying it since she was 9 months old...I think it's safe to say that this is NOT working for us!
We've tried the hot milk, running around the block, calm baths, reading, singing, movies, no movies, light, no light, etc., etc... Nothing works except of course, wrapping her tight and rocking her to sleep...which her dad doesn't do so well. Now, his way does work, it just takes a few hours! yes HOURS...he lays down with her, and more often than not, he falls asleep and she comes out to me!
The Abigailism within the Lesson...
I've given up on trying to put her to bed. Billy isn't ready to give up yet. So, he lays down with her every night. On one of those nights, after about an hour, Billy gave up and started to play with her, abi ended up punching him in the nose! It didn't hurt him that much, but he thought it would be a great idea to play it up a bit, so he pretended she really, really hurt him...she starts to cry and is leaving the room when Billy stops pretending and asks her why she is crying and leaving. Her response:
"I have to leave you daddy, I can't be around you, I am too dangerous for you"
Billy tells her he is sorry and that she didn't hurt him and to come back. She laughs, runs to him, continues their play...and kicks him in the nuts!! That's my girl!
Lesson 3
No matter what mood you are in, no matter the circumstance, no matter how you feel at that moment, when an opportunity arises to teach/correct your child...MAKE SURE YOU DO!!
As you read in the last entry, my daughter said "ass" and we didn't correct her. We weren't much into the whole parent mode...and it was funny.
Well, the other day Billy and I are talking and abi comes into the conversation and tells us:
"I'm gonna kick yer ass"
We are now in the parenting mode and correct her, to which a reply comes:
"but you say it all the time"
She is right here. SO, I figure I should try and be a fair parent, which leads to Lesson #4
Lesson #4
You are a parent. Parent's aren't fair. Never try to be...it's not your job.
In trying to be fair to the child who has a mother that says ass all the time (I've been trying to curb this, but I figure after 5 years, all hope is totally lost!), and who is always stuck in the car with her mother during rush hour traffic (and who's mom is known to have a tad bit of a potty mouth while in rush hour traffic), I came up with a brilliant-turned-not-so-brilliant idea:
Mom: "abi, I know you hear mommy say that a lot, but it's not nice to say that"
abi: "then why do you say it all the time, how come you get too?"
Mom: "cuz I'm the mom"
abi: "that's not fair"
Mom: "I tell you what, just don't say it around other people, if you say it around mommy and daddy, that's one thing, but to say it to others - especially at school or church - it's not a nice thing, okay?"
abi: "okay"
Fair enough right? If you said yes, read the first sentence to Lesson #4!! Why? well, fast-forward to Saturday. Billy and Abi are at the church, Billy is cleaning, abi is riding her bike....
Billy: "abi, be careful of what you are doing" (or something along those lines, I wasn't there)
Abi: "daddy, I'll kick yer ass"
Billy: "ABI, YOU ARE NOT TO SAY THAT WORD"
Abi: "but mommy said I can say it around you guys"
This is where I roll my eyes, slap my forehead and say "oi vay"...
To Those I Love, peace
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